” Learn to recognize the thoughts you dwell on most, and train yourself to avoid those obsessive pathways”
so so so much easier said than done. . at least for some of us that have the type of personality that lends itself to obsessive thinking, especially about something like the uncertainty of a mel diagnosis where it’s forever (at no point are you “out of the woods”)
If you can learn to do mindful meditation, that helps this overthinking that we all do. Need to clear out the brain of thoughts if you can.
I’ve tried to meditate before, but it didn’t work. Are some people just not cut out for meditation? I think it would help me de-stress both at work and after I go home. It might help me enjoy my weekends a little more, too.
Practicing meditation is helpful and there are lots of tools to help on utube, and the books and CDs by Jon Kabat-Zinn. I do one of his cd’s and it really helps. You just have to clear out the mind stream and even trying does help. Yes, it is hard, but gets easier as you remind yourself that you are thinking instead of concentrating on breathing etc. Taking time out for deep breathing is very useful too.
Going to really have to attempt meditation – or something.
I was feeling pretty relaxed about the whole scenario after getting the all clear from the oncologist a few weeks ago. Very short lived as I had a Derm checkup last week and Voila!…2 more spots need biopsy. One is really close to my eye.
Now I am feeling anxious and back to thinking about melanomas again.